What are the real ‘Oppa’ rules?

My friend and I were chatting today about my Bias list (currently only has 5 guys) and the possibility of my having to change it into two separate lists:

  1. I’m your Noona Bias List

  2. You’re my Oppa Bias List

Which brought back up the Oppa question.

Not that I plan on running around Korea and calling every guy older than me Oppa but since it is fully integrated into Korean culture, it is something that I am curious about.

I got the older brother, older male friend and boyfriend part. It’s the age part that kills me every time. With the US age and the Korean age not being the same, if you want to address someone as your Oppa, which age is the correct age to follow?

For example: If a guy was born in Korea in November 1977, he would be 36 in the US but 38 in Korea. He would turn 39 in Korea, not in November but in January.

So for a woman born in the US in November 1977, can she call him Oppa?

Based on US age he is not her Oppa but in Korean age he is.

*Please note that I was not born in November 1977 and am not using my age as this example. Kekekeke  ~ _ ~


Dating in 2014

When people say that they are dating, what exactly does that mean in 2014?

I mean, I know what dating is but is there such a thing as being faithful to only one person anymore? It just seems like most people these days seem to choose quantity over quality.

I personally have not seriously dated in a long time. Not because I don’t want to or because I don’t see guys with potential but because I have so much going on at this point in my life.

I can’t manage another person’s feelings, expectations and whatever else at this moment in time. I think that being grown up enough to acknowledge this is important, as opposed to being selfish and still wanting to have someone in my life only to neglect them later on.

So back to my original question, what is dating in 2014?

I have a lot of male friends. Some married, some single, some with girlfriends and some with ‘groupies’.

One of the perks of this is being able to listen and take part in their unguarded conversations. They are very comfortable talking with me around. Maybe TOO comfortable at times. So because of this, I am privy to a level of honesty that, to me, is hard to achieve once you officially start dating someone.

I shall leave them nameless to protect the ‘innocent’. I have heard things from them like:

“I just broke up with my girlfriend of xx years and want some time to myself. I’m NOT looking for another long term relationship.”

This particular friend had a one night stand a few months later and got the girl pregnant. Needless to say, they now have a child together. That sounds pretty long term to me.

“I only got married because I thought it would be the same as when we were dating. Things have changed and I’m not happy.”

This friend later bought a house for and is still married to his wife who he said “wasn’t making him happy”. Meanwhile, I’ve heard from mutual friends that he is still saying he’s not happy. Go figure.

“Women are worse than men. They do their dirt but are sneakier so they don’t get caught”.

LOL! Silly Rabbit…Although this may be true for some women, not ALL women live by that sword. Part of the dating problems in 2014 that I have observed is men and women trying to ‘one up’ each other with the notion of “if you can do it then so can I but better”.

“I may like some qualities in one person and some in another. Why do I have to choose between the two?”

First of all, I don’t know if people have forgotten but STDs and AIDS ARE still alive and kicking. Second, not one person is perfect. Third, how old are you again? Mr-I-want-my-cake-and-ice-cream-too.

So to sum it up, what does dating in 2014 mean to me? It means unless a miracle happens, Isha will remain single as advertised until 2015. Maybe longer. If I meet someone who I can love despite their flaws and that loves me and me alone despite mine, then we’ll see. Sharing is NOT caring. ~ _ ~

What does dating in 2014 mean to other people? Hmmm. I dunno.

What does it mean to you???


K-ictionary….The new Dictionary!

Since becoming a fan of Korean dramas and music, a new version of the Dictionary has become available to me.

If it had an official name, it would probably be “K-ictionary –  The official dictionary to the South Korean entertainment industries’ female fans”.

It took me a while to accept these new vocabulary words as some of them already had other meanings based on the original English Dictionary.

Here of some examples of words that I knew before but now have new meanings to me based on the K-ictionary:

1. Ship

Dictionary – A large boat or sea sailing vessel

K-ictionary – To give a co-sign (thumbs up) to two people whom you feel would make a great couple. The couple DOES NOT have to be a guy with a girl.

Example: K pop female fans will ship two male members who are very close and display tons of skin ship with each other.

2. Skin ship

Dictionary – Ummmmm. These two words are in there but not together. Y’all know what skin is and #1 was ship.

K-ictionary – To display affection or close friendship by touching, kissing, cuddling, sitting on, laying on, dancing on, blowing air on, winking at, holding hands with another person. The people displaying skin ship DO NOT have to be opposite sexes.

Example: I don’t think I have to explain this, right? Moving on….


3. Bro-mance

Dictionary – Basically, this is a combination of two words, brother and romance.

K-ictionary – When two or more guys have a strong friendship and display lots of skin ship towards each other, to an outside observer, it appears as if they have romantic feelings for each other.

Example: Kim Woo Bin and Lee Jong Suk’s characters in School 2013 had an insanely intense Bro-mance that almost made all the female viewers burst into flames from all the Feels.

4. Feels

Dictionary – Your emotions. Usually termed as ‘feelings’.

K-ictionary – When someone (male or female) does something with or without meaning to, that effects you so strongly that in addition to making your feelings go haywire, it may also cause your brain to temporarily malfunction.

Example: “Oh my gawwwd…My feels!!!! J Hope, stop it!”

J Hope

I actually dedicated a blog to J Hope under My Obsessions > J Hope…Please stop, that is purely feels based. I wish I could delete it. But my Feels won’t let me.  ~_~

5. Puppy

Dictionary – A newborn to adolescent dog. Generally very playful and super cute in this age range thus making them very hard to resist.

K-ictionary – A cute Male Lead in a drama that has exhibited any of the following, but not limited to, the behaviors listed below:

1) Had his feelings hurt by a Female Lead and is crying

2) Loves someone who doesn’t love him back so he’s lonely

3) Loves someone who loves him back but for whatever reason they can’t be together so he’s sad

4) Is jealous of another Male Lead and shows it in a angry but cute pouty lip way

5) Falls over himself to do something to please the girl he likes

Examples (K drama fan comments): “Oh puppy, don’t cry! She’ll come back to you” or “Look at the puppy smiling because she complimented him!”

These are the main words that I feel a fan of k pop and k dramas will need at the Beginners level.

Be sure to look out for my next K-ictionary post for the Intermediate fans! ^_^


Korean Drama Mathematics – Lesson 3

Fact: South Korea has some of the most attractive male actors and musical artists


Music – BTS aka Bangtan Boys

*For visual verification, please see BTS – Bangtan Boys tab & More BTS pics sub-tab

Drama – Inspiring Generations

*For visual verification, please see My Obsessions tab > Korean actors & My Top 5 Biases sub-tab

Relevant Equation:


*For this particular “Lesson”, there are too many equations to list all of the possibilities.


FGIT = Flower Grandpa Investigative Team, IG = Inspiring Generations, FBRS = Flower Boy Raymun Shop, MTF = Me Too Flower, IRMC = I Rest My Case


I have not seen as many attractive guys as in the South Korean entertainment industry. 99.99% of the movies, dramas and music videos/programs that I have watched so far have at least 2 cute guys each.

Inspiring Generations was THE kicker. It’s like South Korea was bragging about how many hot guys they have so they decided to put as many of them as they could in one drama.

Yes, South Korea. We ALL know that you have magical water that makes 2 out of 3 babies born there look like super models by the time they are in middle school. I mean, it’s gotta be the water right???

Of course, this is all based on my personal opinion but then again, I am not ashamed to say I am extremely biased. ^_^

Korean Drama Mathematics – Lesson 2

Fact: Most romance themed K dramas have two male leads trying to win the heart of one female lead

Examples: Cunning Single Lady, Boys Over Flowers, Prime Minister and I

Relevant Equations:

FML = S + M + C

SML = L + K + VC



FML = First Male Lead, SML = Second Male Lead, FL = Female Lead, S = Sarcastic, M = Mean, C = Cute, L = Lovable, K = Kind, VC = Very Cute, HBSML = Heart Broken Second Male Lead


Unfortunately, these equations cannot be altered. In every single one of the K dramas I listed above, I developed such horrible SML syndrome that I even considered not watching the drama when it looked like the First Male Lead was going to get the girl. ~_~